One thing that I’ve learnt in life is that everything truly happens for a reason. Look at where you are right and now think about being in this exact moment. I often think if the bad things that have happened to me in the past didn’t occur, I wouldn’t be where I am today. At the time you may not understand why something happened to you, and it might even seem like the end of the world. At some point you realise something that happened to you five or ten years ago makes sense.
For me life began to make sense when I started believing in fate. I then understood why a particular boy didn’t like me or why I wasn’t friends with the same people anymore and I started growing as a person. Sometimes breaking up with someone or losing a friend for example, which is horrible at the time, can turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you. What is meant to be will always be, and who knows you might just end up discovering who you truly are.
If you are on the path to self discovery, I think the most important thing to do is take a step back and not let the past define you now. Where do you want to be in the future? What type of life do you dream of living? For me I spent a lot of time finding what I really enjoyed doing and who I enjoyed being around. Of course, beauty blogging is a huge part of me. Something else I also love to do is read, and there are two books that have stuck with me and helped to shape me as a person…
Looking for Alibrandi by Melina Marchetta is one of those novels that I read over and over again because it just tugs at my heart and is so relatable. Josie Alibrandi, the protagonist, struggles with not fitting in and the perils of falling in love with the ‘perfect’ boy who cannot give himself to her because of his own internal battles. Josie also struggles with falling for someone else who isn’t the type of person she imagined herself with. Honestly not a day goes by when I don’t think of this book.
Textbook Romance by Zoe Foster-Blake and Hamish Blake helped me to view relationships in a different light. Zoe got me in the right mindset and taught me to realise my self worth and the importance of being your own person. Once you are the best version of yourself then you will eventually find someone who will continue to bring out the best in you. I also learnt what not to do when it comes to relationships and dating – very helpful.
Ultimately I like to think of life as a beach. The waves are unpredictable. They rise and crash against the sand and rocks and cause destruction. The water can be dangerous and what is beneath is often unknown, but sometimes you to take the risk of entering the deep blue. But then there are times when the water is so calm and still. When I wake up at 5.30am everyday I like to stare out my window at the ocean and watch how calm the ocean is. I take in the serenity and stillness, knowing before too long the waves will start crashing again. The ocean is unpredictable and so is life. The cycle of chaos and serenity will always exist, but it will set you on the right path.